When I went to get my mail a few months ago, I was surprised to see an unexpected fat torn envelope with a rubbed-out return address and international stamps. I instantly became nervous. My first reaction was that I had received anthrax in the mail.
I recognized a friend’s name and opened a wonderful Christmas card that had been lost in the mail once my heart had calmed down enough to see the blurred address.
Who is afraid of being harmed by mail? Diplomats, high-ranking officials, politicians, or famous people? It’s not supposed to be me. I’m just a woman who works in technology and blogs about it. In return, I get a flood of angry comments, ranging from annoying trolling to death threats, assault, and violence, as well as phone calls to my place of business.
I told another woman in tech about my situation, and she told me her experience was strangely similar to mine. What are our misconducts? She provides free advice and resources on how to get into the tech business. I make jokes about technology. satirical films and jokes about technology satirical videos targeting Silicon Valley. Not every woman in tech will have such life-threatening concerns; we aren’t all the same and have faced different problems. Some of us have been harassed or forced into difficult situations. Some of us have been underpaid, hired at lower levels of command, and never promoted. The majority of us, on the other hand, are constantly subjected to microaggressions. Every woman I know who works in technology has a story to make your blood boil. However, the more you hear these stories, the more you’ll want to believe them.
However, the more you hear news and understand how common they are, the more you feel stuck. Of course, women face microaggressions in the workplace in general, but it feels like the deadly misogynistic tumors in our industry are so deep that we may never be able to analyze them all.
There is always something to be irritated about.
I know I’ll get a comment along the lines of “You women are always angry about something” if I share experiences in a public place. They emphasize the ironic correctness of their own thesis, despite their intention to be condescending. There is always something to be irritated about.
Another common response that we expect is the
We can’t complain because we’re highly compensated, they say (as if any amount of salary could justify misogyny, harassment, etc…). And, while we are well compensated, we are not as well rewarded as our male counterparts. not as well compensated as our male colleagues Women of color are considerably more vulnerable. Not to add a large gap in seeing participation in leadership and more senior roles, with extremely slow development.
Two steps forward and one step back
Any tiny improvements in representation can feel like taking two steps ahead and one step back. Women still can’t be too pushy, bossy, nice, or not friendly enough without jeopardizing their professional advancement. Promoting for fair opportunity